Living life in the silver lining
- Feb 5, 2018
- 2 min read
You know that person who seems to always have a blast, who people instantly seem to like, who seems to succeed at almost everything they put their hand to? Well, I’ve asked a few of them this question- what do you do that is different to how you think the rest of us live? and the answer is simple- they choose to see a situation in the best light possible.
They tend to believe that they are great company, that people want to be their friends. They seem to believe that they can accomplish what they put their mind to, that when something doesn’t work it, it isn’t necessarily because someone else has it in for them, but quite likely its a more complex mix of factors.
So lets try an excercise. Let’s imagine for a moment that you are walking down the street and across the street you see your boss and wave out to them. They look in your direction but don’t wave back. What is your initial read of the event?
Some might say that they are mad at you for not turning in your brief on time yesterday, others might say that they didn’t see you, still others might think he thinks to highly of himself and doesn’t want to acknowledge you, still others might say you aren’t worth knowing, others might say that he was preoccupied.. so on and so forth.
There is the fact, you waved, they didn’t. Then there is our perception of the facts.
We all live our lives based on the way we see things play out. Unfortunately we then act on this judgement without any further checks on it. This situation could affect us is different ways- we may be guarded in the office or mad at the culture we live in, or feel worse about ourselves. More often than not this then become the reality that they experience and that they start acting like- which might become a self fulfilling prophecy.
So now that we know this, what do we do?
A) We can ignore it and keep living life the way we do or
B) We can choose to see ourselves and others in the best light possible and live life accordingly
Try it out and see how this simple thing can change your experience.
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